Thanks all for the help, but I found the solution. I tried unplugging the burner then reinstalling it but it didnt work.. On Christmas I got an iPod mini and since all my other USB ports were taken, I had to use that one. I had uninstalled it a long time ago when it still didnt work both primary/secondy ide. Unplug iPod, plug in burner, viola! reinstalls. I forgot that I had even uninstalled it and then I figured I'd check the DMA there were all there except for one on the secondary which was on PIO but I switched to DMA and then restarted and it stayed. I havent had a chance to do a full burn, but I burned a 30 min show to a dvdrw and it took about 25 mins. Goo improvement and I know that my dvdrw only burn at 2x with this media so this is prob the closest I can get. Thanks all for the advice, I feel stupid after waiting for so long..
DMA reverting to PIO http://www.michna.com/kb/WxDMA.htm and http://support.microsoft.com/?kbid=817472 Explain DMA and PIO problems in great detail. Seems like it can/will happen repeatedly and here's why and what you can do about it.