I am trying to find out if a program exist that i can use to make a private file sharing network with just friends and family. That way i can control who is a member and who is not and uncle sam can't watch what we're doing. Right now i'm trying grouper which seems to work decently . it still goes through grouper's servers first though. i'm about to try direct connect and dc++ but i don't know if i can make those private. anyone have any suggestions?