Help with Video (Avi/Divx/mpg...) to a burned DVD that will pay in a standard NTSC Player

Hello,
I have come here after days of searching…
I am creating a program in c#/VB.NET.
I have accomplished the following:
Capture video to a raw avi.

My issue is turning that AVI into a burned DVD

I have used FFdshow / Divx / Intel etc.. Encoders when capturing they all seem to work ok.

I have used FFmpeg and Mencoder to convert to 720/480 4/3 AC3 audio MPEG-2 file
Mencoder -> mencoder -of mpeg -mpegopts format=dvd -srate 48000 -ofps 30000/1001 -ovc lavc -oac lavc -lavcopts vcodec=mpeg2video:vrc_buf_size=1835:keyint=18:vrc_maxrate=9800:vbitrate=4900:aspect=4/3:acodec=ac3:abitrate=192 raw.avi -o dvd.mpg

FFmpeg - > FFmpeg -i raw.avi -target ntsc-dvd -b 2000k -acodec mp2 -ar 22050 -ab 64k -aspect 4:3 -sameq dvd.mpg

I also have used dvdauthor to convert to the AUDIO_TS / VIDEO_TS structure and VOB format

DVDAuthor - > dvdauthor --video=ntsc+4:3+720x480 -t -f dvd.mpg -o output -o dvd/ -t

Lastly I use the cheetah command line burner to burn the DVD’s
CHEETABurner - > cmdBurner.exe burntype=video-dvd, C:\Users\Mark\Desktop\dvdtools\dvd\VIDEO_TS

I have used Demux to Demultiplex after ffmepg or mencoder but it only produces 2 files that do not have VOB extensions, and I am not sure if I burn those or convert them some more?

So my BIG question is, what am I doing wrong? There is so much info out there and none of it is a complete guide. I do not know if I need to Demux with ffmpeg or use the demuxer? Should I copy the demuxed files to a VIDEO_TS directory and burn?

DVDAuthor created the directory structure for me and the VOB files, but they never work in a DVD player and are not recognized by my computer as DVD disks.

I am Using DVD media to burn to. I have gone through about 50 disks so far..

So many steps, but which do I need to use? Does burn speed matter? Etc...

I am limited to command line (CLI) applications as this will be part of a program that needs to be automatic.

Can anyone shed some light on this for me; I really am at the end of my rope.

Thanks in advance, for any help.

 

Also, what is the correct format, bit rate, and audio format, frame rate etc.. for a DVD?

Man I am SOOOOO LOST