This might be goodbye.

wow i just read this whole thread and its really depressing. I feel sorry for ya Estuansis and for your dad as well, and for your moms addictions i read that you went to wasau my friends have a cabin up there and we go with them alot to recently snowmobile and also for the summer. We also go up to Land O Lakes which is a little further North. Hopefully things will pull through and keep posting.

 

It's a really depressing situation man. Thanks for the support.

I live about 45 minutes from Wausau. I'm in Wisconsin Rapids.

I don't know if my mom is the source of all problems in my life guys. But she IS a source of a lot grief. She HAS been improving on her gambling a lot, but she is still doing it. I'm trying to get her to stop. It's a long road to recovery. Wish me luck all!

 

I do wish you luck, Estuansis. Hang in there, man. And keep taking care of those pets; they are as innocent victims as you are. I do think, BTW, that your dad should try to get the credit card numbers changed (even if it means reporting it stolen) as a temporary fix, and a password on the account that only he knows. It's a stop-gap measure, but it may help, and that he monitor credit so your mom doesn't try to take out a loan to finance her gambling.

 

I'm not sure what my dad is doing to curb my mom's gambling. I don't know if they even have their cards anymore.

The only credit card I would be worried about is mine. And that's safely in my pocket. Despite a gambling addiction, my mom knows full well that I am the last person you want to steal from.

 

Well, some good news. One parakeet in my room. Freshly cleaned cage, fresh water, fresh food, some millet hanging. Happily chirping away. Quite annoying but better than watching it keel over. Thank god I had a mirror. It seems to be mesmerized by its own reflection

More good news. Mom let me take her to a gamblers anonymous support group. I sat and watched the whole time. Drove her home. No fight, no fuss.

I also have Mom's computer running through my PC as a hardware firewall. No gambling for mom. Got all her gambling sites blocked from accessing our network. If that doesn't work, I'm looking for a decent screen monitoring program. I'm talking to my school's network admin to hopefully obtain a copy of the software they use.

That, plus I talked to both parents and Mom has agreed to leave her credit card with dad from now on.

Step 1 to breaking an addiction is admitting you have an addiction.

Step 1: Complete

EDIT:

Oh yeah, more good news. New video card today. 8800GTS 320MB. Thanks to my Grampa

 

Estuansis
I cant beleive what youve been going through. Things seem to be picking up and thats great! I hope things only keep getting better, as for that video card (its hella better than mine, so keep that in mind, thank grandpappy one more time hehe). Hopefully your mom is doing well as well as your dad. Take care buddy.

-pepsimaxx

When its all over and everythings doing fine, take Neph up on that offer and have some legs broke!!

 

Holy cow, I never hang out in the safety valve much and was shocked to see this post - it's been a little while since it was updated - how are things going? It's a real credit to you that I had no idea of these circumstances, and you have my deepest sympathies, Estuansis. You're a very valuable asset to the forum, and it's tragic that as previously mentioned, such bad things happen to such good people.

 

Thank you for the kind words

Yeah, it's still not much better(money-wise) than the last update. Mom has improved quite a bit on the gambling thing. She hasn't been to the bar in weeks. Got her computer under watch too. "Gamblers Anonymous" meetings seem to have made an impact. She now realizes that she has a major problem and has agreed to let Dad and I take control of the money.

As to income: We have a court hearing in six weeks to hopefully get this matter over and done with. Slow-ass social security guys here in Wisconsin sent our case to the office in Orange County, California. We got an immediate response from them and they were the ones who set up the hearing.

Hopefully, soon we will have some money. Got a temp job at McCain(food processing plant) making $12/hr. Doing 20 hour weeks. Barely keeping us afloat, but at least I can bring home groceries.

When(if) we get this back-pay from disability, we will be able to pay almost everything we owe. So, here's hoping.

 

Sounds like there's some big progress being made. I wish you the best of luck with everything from here on.

 

Hi Estuansis

I just came across your post.
I'm stunned by what you've been through, But I will say this much, you got a strong will there my friend, Most people would have given up a long time ago.
I'm glad to here things are starting to get better for you and your family.
I'll say a prayer for you.
Good Luck and keep fighting.
Peace Friend

 

well things must of not gotten that bad because you still have your internet, when thing get so bad that you can not aford food but you have the internet, do you have satalite tv? and as far as bankruptcy, that would be a no brainer! and for the gambling and the credit cards, all of the things that were done with that, it is all unsecured debit, so there is nothing they can take, also do you have a door on your room? if so spend $5.00 dollars on a lock and put it on, that way the cat's won't be pissing on your stuff, that was easy! so did you quit the apprentice at $9.00 an hour for 6 hours a day, 5 days a week? to take this job? Got a temp job at McCain(food processing plant) making $12/hr. Doing 20 hour weeks? and as far as a dirty house it is only as dirty as you want to live in it, everyone needs to do the job of cleaning not just one, like you say your mom works right? so why should after working all day thain come home and have to fix dinner for everyone, sounds like everyone is wanting one person to do all the work! it takes a family to work togeather to have a happy family, dose your dad know how to cook? do you know how to cook? if not you should learn, what will you do when you move out when you get out of school? i am sorry if it seems like i am comming down on you a little bit but that is life, and if anyone told you that life was easy they lied!!, i have raised two girls by myself, as a single parent working long hours, and it has not been easy, but i keep a clean house and we have two dogs two cats, the girls had stuff that they had to do, and they know how to cook because i taught them how, it is life skills, and now they are out of school and have there own places one has gotten maried and i have a grand child, my oldest is 29yrs old and the youngest daughter is 26 not married but is dating this guy for quite some time like three years, and they are talking about geting married sometime in the neer future. and they both have good paying jobs! as far as your dad,sounds like he is messed up good as far as body wise, and as far as dad plans to divorce my mom, sounds like he is not ready to let go yet! and i understand the love thing, the most common reason people get divorced is money, and screwing arround by one or the other, and you say your family has filed bankruptcy two times and you can only file once every seven years and you are still in school, and you most likley would not knowen about that when you were like five, so what you can learn about all of this is not to make the mistake that were made there. also do you have any family that can help you out? i meen i guess you and your dad could go live with your grandpa untill the big payout comes in! there is always a way out of your mess, but it is like this you have to be sick and tired of being sick and tired and when you get sick and tired of being sick and tired, you might do something about it! but it sounds like everyone has not gotten sick and tired enough! hope this helps good luck you are going to need it, also just wondering how many more years you got left of school?

 

I do dishes. I cook dinner. I pick up after animals. I buy groceries. I pay for internet. I drive my mom to support group. I clean the kitchen, the bathrooms, and the living room. I DO keep my room locked at all times. I WILL NOT leave my mom to go live with grampa.

I got the temp job because I need less stress. I go to school then work and I'm gone all day. 4 hours a day is better.

We are a family and we gotta stay together. Sometimes I need to vent my anger. Sometimes I wish they WOULD get divorced. But I don't mean it.

I'm 18 and I'm in my senior year. Already got into a technical college. Gonna start a business for PC repair.

I'm not ready for these kinds of responsibilities.

I'm tired of being poor.

I'm tired of giving up my paycheck every week to buy groceries.

I'm tired of fighting with my parents all the time

I'm tired of people assuming I'm stupid

I'm tired of people assuming I'm lazy.

I'm tired of going to a remedial school so I have time to work.

I'm tired of being labelled the school loser in a fricking remedial school.

I'm tired of my parents talking about selling the '71 Nova that we worked 12 years on.

I'm tired of the fricking credit card companies calling at all hours of the day and night.

I'm tired of having only 3 pairs of pants and 6 shirts to last me all week

I'm tired of people pointing out that I have the same pants on 2 days in a row

I'm tired of people at school trying to start fights with me

I'm tired of being a chain smoker

I'm tired of selling my PC parts so we can pay bills.

I'm tired of not being able to have friends over because there's no food.

I'm tired of said friends living 4 hours away.

I'm tired of being exhausted all the time

I'm tired of coming home and having just as much stress and grief as I do at work and school.

I'm just tired.

I know there are people who have it worse than me. But up until a few years ago, things were good. So I don't know if I should get used to it or if I should just move the heck out and never go back home.

I'm sorry that you are a single parent and you had to raise your kids alone. But I do want that to happen. If I have no job security I'm not having kids.

I haven't dated in a year and a half. So kids don't even come into the equation.

Sure, mom and dad get stuff done, but it usually seems like I'm the one stuck with everything.

You can call it whatever you want. You can tell me life isn't easy. I don't care.

Okay, I'll update later... lunch is over. I'ma go to work.

In fact. somebody tell me how to close this thread. Causing more stress than it relieves. If I'm around, I'm around. If I stop posting entirely, then you know the net is out too.

 

Still feeling for you, man. I wish you all the best.

 

I certainly wouldn't have dug out this thread if I knew it would cause you more grief, and you know that. I think I speak for all of us when I say we wish you all the best.

 

I wish you all the luck in the world, it'll get better.
Take care of yorself.

 

I have lived on my own since I was 17. Went to school and worked so that I could pay for my car, apt, food. You can do it. Nothing is impossible.

Dude, they shouldn't be calling you at night. Report them Maybe you can file a lawsuit if they don't stop. CHA-CHING!!

Oh man, I can't tell you how many times the pawn shop has saved my butt.

Screw em..wtf does that matter? I got a good pair of pants that I wear three times out of the week, sometimes. Long as you don't mess your pants or piss em, who gives a darn.

I've been through a TON of bs throughout my life...things will get better, then they will get crappy again. Not going to lie about that. Life is what you make it. So when life throws lemons your way, make some lemonade!

Good luck my friend...

**update**

Someone once told me..

Life's a b*tch then ya die..

I now know what they meant by that...

 

LOL, right on binkie! Will do...

Doesn't have the same feeling to it though!

 

Estuansis... I just read though this whole thread, I'm sorry to hear about all this bro. No one should have to go through all this bull**it. I thought i had it tough, now I see how rough things can get... I'm not going to sit here and whine about my life because that is not fair to you. I wish there was someway I could help, unfortunately I'm out of ideas... I will be here for moral support though... Hope it all works out in the end.